Because change is so flipping hard, that’s why. MysteryShrink is my “pay it forward.” Someone should benefit, even a little, from my training and hard knocks. After running through  Freud and every school of psychology, one way of thinking has proven capable of promoting long term change. Bowen Family Systems. MysteryShrink is your guide on the journey, never forgetting that we are most human when we are laughing.

We’re not talking “tips” to change your life, that by the way, cost thousands-- instant and constant joy. (The guy on the site is in jail, bless us all.) We’re talking about doing a tiny bit better job of managing our emotions, and, trust me, a tiny change is hard enough. Think of what we’re doing as trying to get just a little more toward the middle of the herd.

Remember watching one of those National Geographic shows on the incredible migration of the wildebeests? Remember how you would see hundreds of thousands of galloping wildebeests? And around the herd you saw marauding hungry lions?  The hungry lions select their prey from the wildebeests struggling along the outside edges of the herd—the lame, the sick, the weak, the not so fast and not so bright. The goal here is to move the tiniest, wee bit closer to the middle of the herd. 

The goal is to be just a bit more in charge of our emotions.

Which is really a good plan because, as far as treating us the way we should be treated, even with all the tricks I’ve learned, other people continue to prove themselves to be such slow learners and, frankly, a bit stubborn. 

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