How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? 

How Do You Choose a Psychologist? A Lawyer? ‘Real’ Person in an Envy-driven Consumer Culture– Series Do You Know Why . . . Doctors and Lawyers were not allowed to advertise back in the days before marketers ran the world? There was a very good reason. It was thought that …

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The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World

The Drinker, the Aardvark, and the Hat that Changed the World “Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Ms. R’s emaciated body shook so violently I wasn’t sure she would make it across the room to the ‘client’ chair, but she did. Ms. R, 56, had clearly crossed …

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Three Things the Other Person Does Better Than You

“Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To” Series Three Things the Other Person Does Better ***To make sense of this post, first read: “How Orange Jell-O Changed My Life” The habit of talking about ‘the other people’ in the family when leaving a family event is a fairly common …

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Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1

What Do You Mean, You Didn’t Notice? Paying Attention to What You’re Paying Attention To, Part 1 The Green Wallpaper Incident Dr. A is a fifty-two-year old psychiatrist who began the hour saying: “I’m satisfied in most areas of my life, but for some reason, every long-term relationship I’ve been …

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MysteryShrink Shorts: ‘Brand’ or ‘Person?’

MysteryShrink Shorts: ‘Brand’ or ‘Person?’ The answer if very important. If you are getting up every day to work on your brand, you must direct your time, energy, in money into going from who you are to ‘who you can become’ in the eyes of others—and we’re talking as many …

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Are You Better Looking than Most People?

MysteryShrink Short:  Who has the smallest rear, the youngest face, the finest clothes, the clearest skin? Who has the right skin color? Who are the losers? The winners? In the documentary, Come Back, Africa (1960) Zacharia, a man from ‘the villages’, comes to Johannesburg where his new employer, the wealthy …

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When it Comes to Distant Mothers—This Lady Wins

When it Comes to Distant Mothers—This Lady Wins The movie, The Darjeeling Limited, is the story of one man’s attempt to save his own life and maybe those of his brothers who are equally crippled by their strange and emotionally distant childhood. **To make sense of the current story, first …

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