MysteryShrink for the Short Attention Span

“I can’t believe this is happening. . . to me.” We’re good people, right? Or we try to be. And yet we suffer. We start out each day with a plan, an intention toward kindness, and sometimes even a list. And then reality steps up and dents our serenity. It …

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MysteryShrink for the Short Attention Span

Own Your Emotional Reactivity MysteryShrink for the Short Attention Span is about what you can do right now to make a difference in your experience inside your head and with other people. We humans are predictable. We can use this information for good. For starters, open a folder and log …

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Going with the Flo

Impractical Psychology On this New Year’s my mind goes back to Ellen, the thirty-three-year old mother with breast cancer who, after she’d been informed that she had from twenty-four to forty-eight of consciousness left, called me for help. Me? What did I know? I was a twenty-five-year psychologist barely out …

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Have you ever said “yes” when you meant “no”?

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts Have you ever been in a relationship in which you felt ‘who you are’ was slip-slipping away? Maybe you stopped seeing your friends or family as often. Or you changed the way you dressed or the way you ordered from a menu. Not …

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If You Have No Part in the Problem, You Have to Power to Improve the Situation

Practical Psychology: What Works and What’s Nuts . . . For any change effort to make a difference in a relationship or experience, we must switch attention away from what other people are thinking and doing and direct attention toward thinking about and better understanding our own emotions and behavior. …

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Can You Really Change? Can Anyone?

Can You Really Change?  Can Anyone? The Teapot Incident The day I discovered people can change I was at the university health center set to have a session with my very first couple clients on my own. Mr. and Mrs. T. had sought my services because they were distressed and needed …

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