mysteryshrink

I'm a psychologist who goes to way too many movies, for the same reason I chose this profession. I love stories. I use movies and novels working with people in my office and during speaking engagements. "You should write some of this down," I kept being told. So, this is it, folks.

Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationship

Sex and the Dishwasher: Becoming a Self in Relationships Mr. and Mrs. R were in my office with complaints about the other’s behavior which makes sense because each of us views the world through our personal and very prejudiced camera. Mrs. R’s goal was for her husband to recognize the …

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Dr. Dales’ Journal, Part 4, The NOVELTY of having CANCER has WORN OFF

Dr. Dale’s Journey. Part 4: “THE NOVELTY OF HAVING CANCER has WORN OFF” For this entry to make sense, first read Dr. Dale’s Journey Part 1: “DIAGNOSIS BLACK,” Dr. Dale’s Journey Part 2: “HEMLOCK” (chemotherapy); Dr. Dale’s Journey Part 3: “FALLOUT” (Radiation). Dr. Dale didn’t write much during the initial flurry …

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Dr. Dale’s Journal. Part 3: FALLOUT (Radiation)

Dr. Dale’s Journal: Entry Three on Joys of Radiation For this entry to make sense, you’ll need to have read Diagnosis Black and Hemlock. Introductory Dr. Dale Memory Story: Dr. Dale Maxwell, psychiatrist and buddy, has been diagnosed. He has less than two years to live. My husband and I …

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Midwest Review of THE MERCY

MIDWEST BOOK REVIEW This review of The Mercy appeared in the October edition of the Midwest Book Review. Diane Donovan, Editor and Senior Reviewer THE MERCY Barbara Deshong 978-0692492123 http://www.amazon.com/Mercy-Jessica-LeFave-Mysteries-Volume/dp/0692492127 The Mercy, Volume One of the ‘Jessica LaFave Mysteries’ series, provides a powerful account of suicide in a family of …

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Is There Life Beyond Work, Possessions, and Entertainment?

Is There Life Beyond Work, Possessions, and Entertainment? This question bothered me from an early age, perhaps because I’ve been an always busy, prove-yourself-through-accomplishment sort of person. But there was a moment when I realized I wanted a deeper connection with life. The memory sounds kind of goofy which is …

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Fusion and Relationship Dependency from “Psychology for Dummies” Page

            Fusion and Relationship Dependency from “Psychology for Dummies” Page A high degree of fusion or togetherness is reflected when two people have a hyper-sensitivity to each other. This intensity takes one of two forms: “I can’t do without you” or “I can’t stand to …

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The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football

The Lady Who Thought She Liked Football Relationship Dependence, “I’m Okay if You’re Okay with Me” What is Fusion? When does fusion become relationship dependency? This article is a follow up to discussion of Jodi Picoult’s book The Pact. Fusion is the process in which one person’s feelings are intertwined …

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