A Psycholgist on the Loose
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Letting Others Be Themselves
Which, of course, they are going to be anyway. But since we’ve given our precious permission, what that means is that we CANNOT be all surprised when they are themselves.
Remember we expected that. Gave permission. Later in evolvement we’ll even recognize that others have THE RIGHT to be themselves. But, not yet. For now we’re just being generous.
Which means:
The person who cuts in front of you at the grocery store with 80 items, you said she could do that.
The person who’s late to Thanksgiving dinner–you said that would be fine.
You gave the person who doesn’t return your e-mail for four days–you More >
Last Family Member Standing
Thanksgiving. Wasn’t it about inviting the natives of this country to a feast? Well, it’s not anymore. Now it’s about food, family, and football. And, at least for me, it’s not that easy.
Maybe you’re different, but I find it easier to tell my goals to a stranger on a plane than it is to talk to a family member? Why? Because I care too much what a family member says. What he or she thinks.
Thus I OVER-LISTEN and OVER-REACT.
I have a picture in my head as to how my SISTER, MOTHER, BROTHER, BROTHER-IN-LAW, should respond to me. When they do not . More >