A Psycholgist on the Loose
Posts tagged Thanksgiving
Letting Others Be Themselves
Which, of course, they are going to be anyway. But since we’ve given our precious permission, what that means is that we CANNOT be all surprised when they are themselves.
Remember we expected that. Gave permission. Later in evolvement we’ll even recognize that others have THE RIGHT to be themselves. But, not yet. For now we’re just being generous.
Which means:
The person who cuts in front of you at the grocery store with 80 items, you said she could do that.
The person who’s late to Thanksgiving dinner–you said that would be fine.
You gave the person who doesn’t return your e-mail for four days–you More >
Give Yourself a Great Big Break
Hey, grab a snack. This exercise is going to be a lot of fun.
As you ready for Thanksgiving and family, comfortable in the knowledge that in spite of what you want from them, they are going to be themselves–
Think of the person you have the most difficulty with (No, you don’t get to defend and say it’s HIS/HER fault)–and
Give him or her YOUR PERSONAL PRECIOUS PERMISSION to be just who they are.
Whew. That’s a relief. You have your power back. You’re in charge of what goes on inside your chest cavity no matter what others do.
I have more time and energy More >
Last Family Member Standing
Thanksgiving. Wasn’t it about inviting the natives of this country to a feast? Well, it’s not anymore. Now it’s about food, family, and football. And, at least for me, it’s not that easy.
Maybe you’re different, but I find it easier to tell my goals to a stranger on a plane than it is to talk to a family member? Why? Because I care too much what a family member says. What he or she thinks.
Thus I OVER-LISTEN and OVER-REACT.
I have a picture in my head as to how my SISTER, MOTHER, BROTHER, BROTHER-IN-LAW, should respond to me. When they do not . More >