The eHarmony Lady.  There is a woman I’ve “overheard” many times but never met, who impresses the flip-flops off me. Being a creature of habit (off the charts obsessed), I have a regular booth at my my local international world headquarters, Jim’s Coffee Shop, and this lady prefers the booth just behind me.

Note: The booth behind me is not a good choice if you want your conversation to remain private.

About three times a week, eHarmony Lady shows up at around 11:45 by herself and with everything perfect–hair, outfit, nails, faint hint of perfume. She watches the front door of Jim’s. Eventually, a man will walk in alone, looking around….eHarmony Lady then jumps up and introduces herself to her latest match. They take a seat right behind me for that horrible first-thirty-minute emotional death march. Which is, no doubt, great for me since by then I’ve been re-working my own stuff for two hours.

And eHarmony Lady is great. She’s not a “ten,” body-wise, but she’s over a ten in her emotional responses. Instead of letting her Emotional Guidance System scare her off with thoughts like, “I’ll never find anyone,” “I’m not attractive enough to get anyone,” or even, “This is humiliating to keep trying and drawing a blank.” Everytime, she has the same positive approach even when it’s clear from the outset we have a mismatch.

She leads with her Thinking Guidance System, making “If you don’t try, it will never happen–” which is a fact … while all the Emotional Guidance System is hawking fears and untruths.

My Hat’s off to you, eHarmony Lady.

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