Making Decisions on Your Emotions.

  The purpose of this blog is to present some ideas on how in the heck any of us can work toward basing our decisions more on our BEST THINKING and less on OUR EMOTIONS.  Not that emotions aren’t lovely, sometimes they are.  But if we base important decisions in our lives on rushes of emotion, our lives will not go well.

Maintaining good relationships means not allowing our emotions to run the show.  Our emotions are demanding and simplistic. 

Maintaining a healthy body also means not allowing our emotions to run the show.  In some cases, even staying alive means operating out of BEST THINKING rather than raging emotions. 

The Mexico City bed incident.  It’s about two a.m. when I reach across the huge hotel bed for a drink of water on the nightstand.  I knock over the combo bottle of all the pills I’ve brought for the two week trip.  Tiny pills spray around the room, many going under the bed.   ”Phooey.”

Well, it’s too late to worry about these pills now.    Anyway, the lighting will be better in the morning.  Also, I had two glasses of wine with my late pizza and am really drowsy.  THESE ARE THOUGHTS.

But . . . I’m worried that I won’t find all the pills.  What if I don’t find my blood pressure medicine??  I’ll just get up now and search for the pills.  (Note, I am alone.  It’s easier to do stupid things when alone.)  I get up.  The bed is a platform that actually attaches to the wall so that the little pills went under where I can’t reach easily.  I should just wait until the morning when the light is better.  No, I can just pull the mattress out a little . . . oops, the mattress is locked into a box, too.  Oh well, if I can get on my hands and knees and force the mattress up on my back . . . Got it.    Oops.  Mattress slides sideways.  That’s okay, I’m holding off the springs with my knee.  Oops, now my ankle. Yikes!  Face on the carpet.  My nose takes a whack on the nightstand.  The entire boarded mattress crashes on my ankle.  Nose is bleeding.  I can’t move.  I’m trapped.  Well, I’m sure as hell not calling the front desk for help. 

We engage in the same process when we let our anxieties rule our behavior in a relationship.  We can’t wait.